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An orgasm is a reflex; As a timeline Her orgasms work like this
- Sexy thinking, foreplay and arousal cause two processes to start happening. The attention to the nerve endings sends signals to the brain and more blood begins to head toward the “affected area.” An increase of endorphins and blood flow causes the vagina to secrete lubrication. The longer foreplay and arousal continue the more lubrication will be made.
- As sex goes forward, her blood increases in the pelvic area causing her breathing to speed up, heart rate to rise and nipples to become erect. All of this activity causes the lower vaginal opening to narrow which holds the penis more firmly, causing friction, and the upper part of the vaginal cavity to expand which allows space for the penis to thrust.
- The combination of friction, blood pressure, and nerve stimulation causes the muscles of the pelvic floor, vagina, clitoris and anus to tense (almost like a cramp).
- As the nerves send those signals to the brain the glands in the brain realize something must be done to release that tension (the brain processes sexual tension very similarly to the “fight or flight” response).
- The brain releases chemicals which affect the cerebellum and cause all the muscles to release at once in a small series of spasms resulting in momentary (a few seconds) loss of consciousness, muscle control, vocal control, and eyesight.
- After the tension is released, the chemicals secreted in the brain, particularly dopamine and serotonin, activate the pleasure center to create a sense of relaxation, pleasure and bonding.
- The cool down for the body, often called the “after-glow” allows the heart rate, blood flow, and breathing to go back to normal.
2. Here are Signs That You Have The Broken Bird Syndrome
Let’s roll up our sleeves and delve into the nitty-gritty of this syndrome. Here are some signs that might suggest you or your potential partner are playing out the ‘Broken Bird’ narrative.
1. You’re drawn to the ‘wounded’
Like a moth to a flame, you’re attracted to people who seem emotionally vulnerable or distressed. If their life story sounds like a heart-wrenching ballad, you’re signing up for the fan club.
2. The Healer complex
You often perceive yourself as a ‘rescuer’ in relationships. If you’ve ever caught yourself saying, “I can change them,” or “They just need some love and care,” your ‘Healer’ alarm bells should be ringing.
3. Neglecting self-care
In your mission to heal others, you often neglect your own emotional needs. Remember, you can’t pour from an empty cup, no matter how heroic your intentions.
4. Avoidance of personal issues
Fixing others might be a clever detour from addressing your own emotional baggage. It’s always easier to navigate someone else’s emotional maze than confront your own Minotaur.
5. Your relationships feel draining
Instead of mutual support, your relationships feel like an endless emotional battlefield, leaving you feeling more like a tired medic than a triumphant hero.
6. Relationship patterns
You repeatedly find yourself in relationships with people who are emotionally unavailable or have unresolved issues. It’s like you’re constantly stuck on a remake of the same tear-jerker movie.
7. Codependency
Your relationships often turn into an intricate game of Jenga. Your partner leans on you for emotional support, making you a critical piece in their tower of well-being.
You, in turn, rely on their need for you, just as the game continues with each block removed. The stability of the whole structure starts to rely on the continued play.
Instead of a fun game with clear turns, it becomes a nerve-wracking balancing act, leaving you both precariously perched and fearing the inevitable tumble.
8. You downplay your partner’s issues
In your quest to heal, you might minimize your partner’s problems, believing they can be easily fixed with some love and care.
If you find yourself thinking “Their alcohol addiction is only a phase,” or “Their anger issues are just because they’re misunderstood,” you might be in broken bird territory.
9. Feeling superior or in control
You might feel a sense of superiority or control in being the ‘fixer.’
Your partner’s perceived emotional weakness makes you feel stronger or more ‘together’ by comparison. It’s a self-esteem boost, but at the cost of a healthy relationship balance.
10. Ignoring red flags
When we’re in ‘healing mode,’ we often turn a blind eye to the red flags waving in the relationship breeze. Instead, we see them as fixable issues, turning our love life into an emotional home renovation show.
11. Compromised personal growth
In your efforts to fix your partner, you might find your own personal growth and self-improvement taking a backseat.
You might even reject opportunities that could lead to your personal growth because it doesn’t fit the ‘healer’ role you’ve taken on.
Anyway, this isn’t guesswork; it’s distilled from books I’ve used for years. Choose the men’s, women’s, or complete set.
I’ve gone deeper on this topic in longer form before; links are on my profile if you’re curious.
3. With all my high level degrees and PHD's, I stumbled upon these questions
If poison expires, is it more poisonous or is it no longer poisonous?
Which letter is silent in the word "Scent," the S or the C?
Do twins ever realize that one of them is unplanned?
Why is the letter W, in English, called double U? Shouldn't it be called double V?
Maybe oxygen is slowly killing you and It just takes 75-100 years to fully work.
Every time you clean something, you just make something else dirty.
The word "swims" upside-down is still "swims".
100 years ago everyone owned a horse and only the rich had cars. Today everyone has cars and only the rich own horses.
If you replace "W" with "T" in "What, Where and When", you get the answer to each of them.
If you rip a hole in a net, there are actually fewer holes in it than there were before.
Anyway, this isn’t guesswork; it’s distilled from books I’ve used for years. Choose the men’s, women’s, or complete set.
I’ve gone deeper on this topic in longer form before; links are on my profile if you’re curious.
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